Once upon a time, it was acceptable to beat women. That’s not cool, but it’s also not cool that the modern day is the exact opposite. In the modern day, men shouldn’t hit girls; we are simply expected to put up with unpleasant behaviour. A feminist would probably argue, “No one should have to hit anyone”, but the truth is that some people not only deserve it but need it in order to be put straight.
A fair few years back now, I was being harassed by a woman who can only be described as a bully. I’d receive verbal abuse and often a slap whenever she had a chance to do so, simply because she knew that social rules dictated that I couldn’t do anything about it. It’s probably not heterosexually expected for a man to be bullied by a woman, but its only made possible because of this misandristic rule, because its accepted that no matter what a woman does, a man should be expected to turn the other cheek, because she’s a woman. After about six months of this, she still had not relented.
On one particular night, she decided it would be fun to start emptying cartons of milk over me and my friend. When I told her to stop, she continued. She came right next to me and began emptying another carton over my shoulder. In the moment, I reacted instinctively. In one movement, I pushed her arm away and slapped her hard across the face. She reeled, and never laid a hand on me again after that.
“You should have just gone home,” someone told me afterwards. No, I should not have done. Just leaving her to it and going home was what I had been doing for the past six months, and it had not made being around her any more pleasant. I had disowned friends who associated with her and shunned places where she liked to hang out, so uncomfortable was I in her presence. People stick so adamantly to “Men shouldn’t hit women” that they try to justify her actions, because she must have had a reason to hate me and that clearly justifies everything she had done up until that point. It does not. I was entirely morally justified in what I did, and she truly deserved it, yet constantly I’m reminded that what I did was wrong, when it was not, and how apparently I’m morally obliged to find a strong woman to fight my battles for me, and if I can’t then that’s just tough, because she’s a woman, I’m a man and it’s my moral obligation to put up with her.
This woman is an example of the kind of person who is able to exist when people are told they’re not allowed to stand up to a bully “Because she’s a woman”. Truly horrible people like this are allowed to exist because reprimanding someone for this behaviour is considered worse than the behaviour itself. Because there is this double standard, there exists a type of woman today who could not have existed a century ago, one who is capable of acting in a way so evil that it would get a man’s head kicked in, but without any repercussions for her horrible behaviour. It’s wrong. Equality has a long way to go as long as girls like this are tolerated.